My wonderful mother

[ScotsRam]

Found out last night that my mum has terminal liver cancer. My heart is completely broken. We are a close family and I have always been a proud mummys’ boy. I am not expecting that posting this will make me feel any better but I’ve always been taught it’s good to talk about things. So I thought I would share some of the things I love about my Mum.

Mum is 58. She’s a special needs teacher and she loves her job. She previously taught herself sign language so she could teach deaf kids and more recently has worked in a specialist unit for autistic kids. She’s only ever looked out for other people. She makes sure everyone else is all set before looking after herself. She remembers everything and knows everything and she has this wonderful maternal knack of knowing when things aren’t ok and quietly taking you aside and helping you out. She’s always supported my sisters and I, with love and everything else we’ve ever needed.

I’m 29 years old and I am a grown up with my own home and a great career and shouldn’t technically ’need’ Mum anymore, at least not in a practical sense. But the thought of her not being there is so painful. I’m absolutely heartbroken. She doesn’t have any grandkids yet and I’m feeling so guilty that she will never see them born, much less grow up.

I know I need to be strong for my dad and my sisters and I will do that. I’m really worried about Dad. He’s been with Mum since they were 16 and I genuinely don’t know how he’s going to cope without her. Anyway we will do our best to support him.

Typing this has actually been somewhat therapeutic. Thanks for the opportunity to share.

 

[LesBaker]

Found out last night that my mum has terminal liver cancer. My heart is completely broken. We are a close family and I have always been a proud mummys’ boy. I am not expecting that posting this will make me feel any better but I’ve always been taught it’s good to talk about things. So I thought I would share some of the things I love about my Mum.

Mum is 58. She’s a special needs teacher and she loves her job. She previously taught herself sign language so she could teach deaf kids and more recently has worked in a specialist unit for autistic kids. She’s only ever looked out for other people. She makes sure everyone else is all set before looking after herself. She remembers everything and knows everything and she has this wonderful maternal knack of knowing when things aren’t ok and quietly taking you aside and helping you out. She’s always supported my sisters and I, with love and everything else we’ve ever needed.

I’m 29 years old and I am a grown up with my own home and a great career and shouldn’t technically ’need’ Mum anymore, at least not in a practical sense. But the thought of her not being there is so painful. I’m absolutely heartbroken. She doesn’t have any grandkids yet and I’m feeling so guilty that she will never see them born, much less grow up.

I know I need to be strong for my dad and my sisters and I will do that. I’m really worried about Dad. He’s been with Mum since they were 16 and I genuinely don’t know how he’s going to cope without her. Anyway we will do our best to support him.

Typing this has actually been somewhat therapeutic. Thanks for the opportunity to share.

I wish I could give you a big hug.

Your mother sounds like on hell of a great lady, which means you are lucky in that very important regard.

My father remarried a wonderful woman. And my father was truly the head of the family not just the Dad. I had the opportunity to tell them (once I was older and realized it to be true) that I was fortunate to have had them as I was growing up. I was very happy to tell them that I hit the lottery when it came to parents. It sounds like you did too.

 

[cvramsfan]

58 is way to young. She sounds to a great human being and the world needs more just her.

My farther-n-law has been gone for just over 2 years now from the same thing. He was more a father to me then either my dad or stepdad ever were. I was lucky enough to spend over half my life so far with him. I wish we knew how bad it was when they first discovered it. I would have made some different choices. So my advice to you really treasure each day and build memories that will be with you forever, but from the sound of it you already do and already have. Make sure to ask her to tell you about her childhood and all the stories she has to tell.

God bless you and your family.

 

[Dieter the Brock]

My prayers go out to you and your mom
You're a lucky fella, lots of us got horrible parents - you're a blessed man
Always envious of those that have beautiful ones like you

 

[fearsomefour]

Sorry man.
Fifty eight, she is just hitting her stride.
Life sucks sometimes.

 

[DaveFan'51]

My sympathies at this Sad time! And best wishes to you and your Family!

 

[Farr Be It]

I'm so sorry @ScotsRam
Thank you so much for sharing your heart with your ROD Rams brothers here. We are here for you. I will be praying for your mom, and for you and your family. For strength, healing, and to feel God's amazing presence through this process.

Ironically, I lost my dad a bit over 2 years ago on Aug. 4th. (Your birthday!) His was kind of sudden, and I've often wished I could go back and talk and laugh with him a bit more. Do that with Mum as much as you can brother.

We are here for ya' :grouphug: ball:

 

[RamFan503]

Oh man. That's brutal news. There are just no words for what my mom means to me so I can only imagine what you are going through. She sounds like a wonderful mother, wife, and person. You indeed need to be strong for your dad and sisters. But let them be strong for you as well.

Typing this has actually been somewhat therapeutic. Thanks for the opportunity to share.

Any little bit this community on ROD can do is our opportunity as well.. You take care of yourself and share whatever you feel will help in that.

 

[-X-]

Can't even imagine, man.
So, so, sorry.

 

[Dodgersrf]

Horribly sad news Brother. It's a brutally painful and confusing thing to have to go through. I lost my mother 10 years ago to pancreatic cancer.
The best advice is to just be there. Sometimes, something as simple as holding their hand can bring a lot of comfort.

 

[~lyser]

So sorry to hear your bad news. Positive thoughts your way.

 

[FaulkSF]

@ScotsRam - Sorry to hear it, my friend. Glad this forum has provided you with an outlet to express how much your mum means, and to just air it out.

I lost my mom in March to pancreatic cancer. I'm sure you both have let each other known how important you have been in each other's life.

Be strong brother.

 

[LumberTubs]

Sorry to hear this @ScotsRam. Your mom sounds like a great lady.

My daughters are autistic and both go to a special school. I've always had massive respect for the staff that work there so, by default, I've got a massive amount of respect for your mom.

While you will naturally want to support your dad and sisters (and should do), don't forget to take some time to support yourself as well.

Glad you felt able to share and that it helped.

 

[Selassie I]

Heart breaking Scotty.

Make the most of your remaining time together.

Do your best to stay strong.

 

[ScotsRam]

Thanks everyone. It’s amazing how much kind wishes from complete strangers can actually help. We have my aunt and uncle up today (mums siblings) so I’m cleaning the house while they’re at the hospital, just trying to stay busy.

 

[HX76]

So sorry to read this Scots. Just horrible news, try to stay strong mate.

 

[Ramlock]

All blessings to you and your family!

Lost my Dad 13 years ago this month to lung cancer.

Think about him everyday. I am in the same career that he was in and I share all of those ups and downs in my thoughts of Dad.

And, he inspired my following of the Rams...

 

[Rmfnlt]

Prayers to you, Mum and the rest of the family!

You are blessed.

 

[Memento]

I'm so sorry, @ScotsRam . I have high-functioning autism myself, so I believe that your mom is a wonderful lady. 58 is far too young.

 

[1maGoh]

We'll be praying for you and your mother. Sorry to hear it.